These are two things that can kill your career and your happiness

These are two things that can kill your career and your happinessThese are two things that can kill your career and your happinessWe continually strategize on the things we need to do to advance our careers, close the sale, be happier, have better relationships and get what we want. More often than not it is what we need to cease doing that gives us the fruchtwein power.1. Dont discount your dreams.I used to live life from a but at least its not ______ perspective. I thought this was being positive because I could always think of something worse. This was an OK way of remaining optimistic in the face of adversity until it became habit for all of life and halted my ability to envision the openness of wonder.It wasnt until I was aware of this that I began to risk shifting to the vulnerable choice of exploring joy without expecting it to be short lived. To ushering in opportunity that I knew was meant for me without holding onto fear. To seeing all that was there with the curiosity of a child. This ability to stay in the moment without fast forwarding to an anticipated ending broke open the world for me. It put an end to all endings. It left me only with beginnings.I stopped needing to be right. I started listening to understand. I stopped being guarded. I started feeling acceptance. I stopped setting small goals. I started living in a big space of this is what freedom feels like.2. Dont wait for life to be fairWhen I was struggling as a single working mother of four children under seven-years-old on public assistance, homeless and without an automobile I used to think there would eventually be an epiphany where life would finally become fair and get better. But it didnt. And I grew more angry and defeated. Though I never stopped working harder and harder in corporate America toward my goal of being a good role model for my children.I rose quickly to the CEO level mostly, I think, because I had four beautiful mouths hanging open in front of me like baby birds and I had no fear of risks. In my marriage I had already experienced the biggest rejection of my life so hearing no didnt phase me. Ive never been qualified for any of the roles Ive applied for on paper but I could demonstrate measurable accomplishments that made this irrelevant. Still, I kept waiting for fair to happen. I kept my head down and everyday read and studied my fascination with human behavior.My biggest achievement came slowly and without fanfare. I never saw it coming. It wasnt my titles, my parenting or my home. It was the day I woke up and realized that life isnt fair its a world of connection. And the connection of most importance is the one we have with ourselves. When I accepted myself with all my flaws I drew others toward me instead of repelling them as I tried to be something I wasnt.Waiting for fair is like thinking the lion wont eat you because you didnt eat him. It isolates us and makes us prey to disappointment and perfectionism which kills careers. Fulfillment comes from swapping expectations and the need to be right for curiosity and wonder.You may be moving slowly toward something today. Know that youre moving in the right direction. Dont quit. Just keep going because youre almost there. Here is a free tool to help you navigate your career along the way 31 Success Practices for Leaders in the High Stakes Corporate World.MaryLeeGannon, ACC, CAEis an executive coach and corporate CEO who helps busy leaders get off the treadmill to nowhere to be more effective, earn more, bemore calm and enjoyconnected relationships with the people who matter while it still matters.Watch her FREE Master Class training on Three Things to Transform Your Life and Career Right Now atMaryLeeGannon.com.

UBS Wealth Management Is Not Selling Out to Wells Fargo

UBS Wealth Management Is Not Selling Out to Wells FargoUBS Wealth Management Is Not Selling Out to Wells FargoIn case you were wondering (and/or also heard the rumors), Bob McCann, the chief of UBS Wealth Management, said in an interview that UBS will not be selling its wealth management arm to Wells Fargo anytime soon, nor will the struggling Swiss giant be selling said business to any other bank. Still, Wells Fargo Co. is fruchtwein definitely in the market for a big brokerage unit the likes of UBS Wealth Management, and so if you (or anyone you know) have thousands of wealthy clients who, collectively, have several billions of dollars in assets, please give Wells Fargo CEO Johnny Stumpf a call.(Bloomberg UBSs McCann Denies Speculation of Talks With Wells Fargo)(Related Exodus at UBS)

This super simple trick could be the key to weight loss

This super simple trick could be the key to weight lossThis super simple trick could be the key to weight lossMost of the pillory lobbed at dietary self-tracking is roused by how time-consuming it is. Successfully adhering to a diet in the midst of our frenetic work schedules is hard enough without amputating hours to log exactly how weak-willed we are.Time constraints aside, a reasoned mind would have to agree that the idea of forcing yourself to be accountable by keeping a journal of your bad habits, is a pretty good one.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreBut what if it could totenstill be effective without taking up such a significant portion of our day?Just 15 minutesJean Harvey is a professor in the department of nutrition and food services at The University of Vermont In Burlington, that recently penned a study that rejects the notion of a fundamentally time draining diet dia ry. She says with a little practice, it can take as little as 15 minutes a day.The study focused on individuals enrolled in low-calories diet regiments, required to exercise at least 200 minutes a week. Over the course of six months, each subject welches required to log what they ate every day through a web-based program.While Harvey did note that the longer participants spent tracking what they ate, the more successful they were, twice a day (15 minutes max) still proved to be much more effective than putting your food indulgences on the pay-no-mind list.The most successful of the group, who initially spent a little over 23 minutes a day taking note of what they ate, lost 10% of their body fat and widdled their journaling down to a brisk 15 minutes by the time the study was concluded.In defense of dietary trackingKeeping track of what and how you eat is a great way to ensure you adhere to whatever diet youve deemed fit. Even if youre not adhering to a strict diet and just trying to maintain a sense of balance, youll need a way to make efficient modifications.This can be done by identifying patterns, accommodating for larger meals by being reminded to have fewer calories later or earlier. Most importantly, it enacts the wonderful tool of self-loathing.Youll be much less likely to eat a 195 calorie donut if at some point youll have to write its 11 pm, and I just ate a 195 calorie donut.Research shows that food diaries are excellent tools for people trying to lose weight. It can also be used to make sure you are eating a healthy diet and getting all of the nutrients your body needs. Dairy Council of California,Reduce calories, control hunger by devoting just 15 minutes to taking notes.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an in terview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people